When I started to work in Baba’s House, I observed Jane meeting the people who came. When Jane met the people, she always stood up when they came in, until the last days when she wasn’t feeling well. She always met them when they came in and talked with them, and there was such a sweet feeling there in Baba’s House. At the time, I never thought I’d ever be given the privilege to work in Baba’s House, but when I did, I remembered Jane always standing to meet the people as they came in. So I did that, and of course, you give that nice Baba hug, and give it and receive it right there in Baba’s living room. It was always so wonderful, because it seemed like a home that welcomed people who were so ready to be able to go from the living room on through the hall and meet Baba in His bedroom, where silence is kept. It was just such a wonderful way that Jane made them feel at home. So I always stood up to meet the people when I was there taking care of Baba’s House.
I remember one time when my sister and her husband, Roger, had come to visit and we all stayed on the Center. We did that for years, and it was always so beautiful to have them come, and Roger would really like to meet Jane, and he would see her in Baba’s House. On one of their visits, we were in Baba’s House. I was standing next to Jane, and it seemed like it was time for Jane to help Roger in such a way that it came over as awesome. Nothing is awesome with Baba, but the way it all worked out was this: I had helped Eileen and Roger’s granddaughter, who was swimming in the ocean having a wonderful time, and she got stung by a sting ray. Of course, if anyone knows what that feels like, it is horrible, horrible pain. The child, about eight or nine years old, was screaming. They didn’t know where the hospital was, so I drove the child to the emergency hospital and she got taken care of.
This took place Saturday evening. When we walked into Baba’s House the next morning, Sunday, Jane met us. They all went to Baba’s room, and when they came out, I’m standing right next to Jane. I knew something was going to happen. Roger was going to be taught something. So Jane looked at Jeff, and I saw Jeff turn his eyes down after looking at her, and he was in total bliss — absolutely in bliss. He didn’t hear a word that was said from Jane to me, he didn’t know anything about what was taking place; he just stood there. So Jane started to reprimand me for not telling the Center right away, before I took the little girl to the hospital. I was supposed to let them know immediately that something had happened on the Center. I knew Jeff was all right, he was just in heavenly bliss, so Jane starts talking to me, really telling me, “Arlene, you should have known better. You knew better than to do that. You should have called me right away, you know that.” And she just kept it up and kept it up and kept it up, and of course, I knew what she was saying was something I would never forget to do, and would always be able to remember to do that first. Not only did I learn that, but I also was seeing how Jane was working with others. The different ones hearing Jane looked at me and could see that I was accepting the reprimand very well. I was sorry and said so. Roger, however, started to make excuses for me. And more excuses, and every excuse he started to make for me, Jane would get after me even more. Then he started to make some more excuses, and she got after me some more. This continued until Roger knew that every time he said something, she would reprimand me even more. Recognizing this, he became quiet.
Jeff walked out onto the porch and Roger followed him while we women were saying goodbye, and Jane was talking to the little girl that had been hurt. Roger said to Jeff, “Jeff, why didn’t you hold up for your wife? Why didn’t you tell Jane there was a lot happening and Arlene couldn’t remember?” Jeff looked at him and said, “Roger, I don’t know what you’re talking about. What are you saying?” Roger replied, “Well, you heard it, Jane was getting all over Arlene for not calling right away. There was so much happening.” Roger could not accept Jeff’s position. Jeff said, “I’m sorry, I don’t even know what you are talking about.” At that moment I walked out onto the porch and Roger said, “Jeff says he didn’t know anything, didn’t hear anything.” I said, “Roger, there’s one thing we’ve been taught from Kitty, Elizabeth, and Jane, and that is never, ever make an excuse. When you are being reprimanded you take it, and you never ever make an excuse.”
He looked at me and he was just shocked. He said, “You mean you can’t say you were thinking just to get the child help?”
“No, I say nothing. I say I’m sorry, that’s what I say, but never an excuse.” And that is one thing we learned from being with Kitty, Elizabeth and Jane. That you don’t make excuses — never for any reason make excuses.